tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6509965338554299908.post153415650869564005..comments2023-06-20T06:16:19.595-04:00Comments on fancy pantalons: une bonne matinéefancy pantalonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13639780477135419036noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6509965338554299908.post-35321222417285563332010-05-10T21:23:19.340-04:002010-05-10T21:23:19.340-04:00I'd been thinking lately about the kind of mal...I'd been thinking lately about the kind of males I've been attracted to (my "type" if you will), and it's always been those who possess qualities that I wish I had in abundance...confidence, rogueish charm, fiercely independent spirit...and then I got to thinking about all the relationships (romantic and friend-based) and came to the conclusion that to sustain a friendship, we need to be getting something from the person. Or, more precisely, that person needs to feel some need. If we don't need that person, we won't put in the work that it takes to sustain a friendship.<br /><br />My mom wasn't totally on board with that, and I have to say that I don't love that it's a really sort of selfish way to think about other people. But as much as I feel like I need/want things from friends, I absolutely give as much as I'm able back to them: I like to think that I'm a friend who gives comfort or a good laugh or a shoulder when needed. But, it's still fulfilling a need on my end (i.e. to feel good about helping that person, to feel good that I'm repaying the person for having been there for me, etc.)<br /><br />I've been thinking a lot about "friends" lately, as I again move from one sphere of life into another. All I know is, I wish they lived a lot closer!fancy pantalonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13639780477135419036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6509965338554299908.post-66904663502101267102010-05-09T22:28:33.933-04:002010-05-09T22:28:33.933-04:00well now i'm interested in your theory of frie...well now i'm interested in your theory of friendship! :)Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339928751812753560noreply@blogger.com